This my friends is what you'll be telling those "haters" or in other words people who don't believe in YOU! I don't really like to use the word "hater". Why? Because even though they may be hating on you, they are really just struggling with the fact that they want to be doing what you are doing but, can't seem to get there. I will always thank each and every human I've encountered myself with in these 24 years of life. They are the ones who continue to motivate me. Throughout all of the negative or hard times that seemed like it wouldn't get better, it has led me to this very moment.
Now, I am not saying this motivation and positive vibe has always been something consistent because I, too found it hard to stay motivated. Let's rewind a bit for this to all make sense babe!
I have always been a pretty positive, supportive friend. I never liked the feeling of being left out so why would I do that to someone else? Going back to my high school years is where I started feeling some type of way. Most people say high school was the best years of their life, for me the years after high school were and continue to be the better ones for me. High school as we know it can be very click-y, you have different groups of friends, activities, places you "belong" too and while that may sound pretty diverse, it's actually the opposite. You choose someone or something and stay there, everyone knows where "you" belong. I had my group of friends starting out in high school and then my 7th grade crush decided it was a good time to start dating the end of freshman year. Of course I was EXCITED! I mean helloooooo wouldn't you be?! And while I was beyond excited, this caused tension in those girl groups of mine. I would never put someone in the position of having to choose between your friends and significant other, would you? That was the beginning of me realizing not everyone wants to see you happy. As the months went on, the relationship became more serious, then we hit a year, and we were still going strong. "Wow, is this {like} something that will last forever?" Well my friends, almost ten years later and I'm married to my 7th grade crush, beating the odds, ya know!
Those were some tough years of high school. Feeling left out, discouraged, why wouldn't my friends want to see me happy? When someone is doing or feeling a way that you want to feel, they get mad at you, when in reality they are just mad at themselves. I had a great support system at home and my husband to get me through times and remain positive. I never once felt like I had to be someone else to gain their friendship back. If they couldn't handle my happiness then what the hell! I didn't need that. I started focusing on my career, Cosmetology at the time, and bettering myself with different jobs in the field. I started meeting new people and connecting with other like minded girls. These were people who had no idea who I was, they weren't judging me {or so I thought} for being my best self and wanting to be friends with them. You think meeting people outside of your hometown will be a good thing and for the most part YES! but, again as I started to build relationships with co workers, I also started moving up the ladder in my career. This is where people start to turn the corner, the common factor I always saw was that it had nothing to do with you personally, it was always the fact of them not being where they wanted to be. So I started to have thicker skin and continued to grow. As, I moved into the retail world, I became close with other girls my age and also older women who gave me great insight on their own experiences. And again, people came and went, but by this point the only words I was saying was "THANK YOU, NEXT!" I did not care what anyone thought of me, I was so motivated to better myself and my career that I had zero time for negativity.
Do you feel stuck right now and don't know how to commit to being positive? Because that can change right after reading this post girl!
{ONE} You can not take anything personal, that is the first step. If you can not break this habit you can not start with a positive mind because you will constantly be thinking of what others think of you.
{SECOND} You need to have a clear goal{s} for yourself. Ask yourself these questions...
Where am I in my career? Do I see myself doing this in five,ten years? Am I happy here? Am I brainstorming on what is coming next? Am I excited to think of this future I will have?
If you answered more yes than no, than you are on the right path, you already have the career you want and you're consistently finding ways to improve. Good for you babe! Spread the positive vibes!
If you answered more no than yes,
{THREE} You need to jot down your ideas. What would be your dream job? Is it realistic and can it be something you can transition into? I get that financial stability comes into play but, not setting up the steps to achieve that goal will get you nowhere.
{FOUR} Tell yourself everyday this is where you are going, I can do this, I'm better than the negative energy being put out there. Waking up with a negative mindset will bring you a negative day.
{FIVE} Do you have a support system? A few people who will do anything for you and support your idea no matter how big or small? Because if you have no one supporting you, then it becomes harder to have confidence in yourself. You fall into the negative trap.
You need to reach out! I'm here to support all ideas because this blog is proof of me doing exactly what I am meant to be doing. Helping women find their #girltribe and be the best version of themselves. There are other like minded girls, who want to see you thriving. One is right here babe ↢
You CAN do it, you just have to believe in you.
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